Breastfeeding – Ending Our Journey: Day 13

Officially I would say we are at the end of our bf journey. He barely asks for Boobie and if he does it’s not a demand for comfort. More of a fondness of a well thought of friend.

So now we have moved on to stage two of our plan… ending co sleeping. As I write this it’s 4.30am and he’s sleeping next to me seeking comfort now and again. We started three days ago… we’ll keep a note of that too.

Boobs still have a little milk in them, but nothing note worthy. No pain or discomfort now not that there was much any way.

Thank you for following our journey. We hope it helps you too if you’re contemplating starting yours.


Fire Safety

The Grenfell Tower fire is an atrocity which is sitting deeply and uncomfortably in our hearts. So many lives were lost, including babies. So I wanted to help raise awareness of steps you can take to help your family.

If you are not confident or had training to deal with a fire, using appropriate fire safety equipment- leave the fire alone! Instead leave the building and raise the alarm!

Equipment that can help, fire extinguishers and a fire blanket.

You should also learn first aid for both adults and kids. So if there was an incident you could help deal with shock and any initial injuries.

Make sure you have the appropriate number of smoke detectors and fire alarms that are in good working order. Test them regularly in accordance with the manufacturers instructions.


First Time Mums/Parents: Eating Out with Baby

Avoiding eating out is just not an option as a new mum. My first trip out was horrendous, first of all it had taken me two hours atleast to get out of the hours and after an hour in the breast feeding room at Mamas & Papa trying to placate my screaming new born, I decided to go get something to eat in Carluccio’s.

Hard seats and bright lights didn’t help my plight, neither did the awkward table layout – as we were placed at a round table with the push chair sticking out and in the midst of room.

Baby of course started to scream his head off and I remember trying to settle him for a nap with a Muslim over his head, post partum hormones sweating out of my body thinking everyone’s looking at me! 

A savior in the form of the waiter helped me when he whisked away my plate so the chef could cut up my eagerly anticipated steak into child like bite sized pieces. I felt so silly – such the rookie mum but I was proud because we had finally made it out of the house on our own! And that’s no easy feat as a new mum!!!

That first trip was a disaster to be fair – I’ve skipped over some of the details. But what I learnt helped me to realize what both my baby and I need when out and about in order to survive.

1. Where to go to eat

Sometimes you don’t have many options, but if you can pick somewhere with comfy seats (for you :-)) and not harsh bright lighting – then you’re onto a winner

2. Pick where you want to sit

Don’t let the staff usher you to awkward spaces. Sometimes they have no experience with children and can’t identify your needs. 

The Centre of a restaurant is too awkward for buggies and breast feeding (even if your the most accomplished discrete person) unless you like people eyeing you whilst you see to your child. See if you can sit off to the side, leave your push chair somewhere. Don’t be afraid to ask for a rearrangement of tables

3. Pick somewhere with adequate changing facilities 

Parents shouldn’t be expected to change babies on the floors of restaurants toilets! It’s disgusting! Nor should you have to leave to find public facilities that are ages away thus disrupting your meal.

Once Baby can sit up:

4. High chairs

Different restaurants have different types. Definitely don’t hesitate to ask if they have any, nor to carry your own sterilizing wipes to clean them down before you put baby in – believe me some of them are left in disgusting states. But for me they need to have straps or a harness to keep baby secure. Without them, your little one will be slipping and sliding all over the place.

5. Carry the relevant milk/food you need to feed your little one. They most likely won’t make formula for you but may provide you with hot water if you ask.

6. Forgotten babies water cup ask for tap water with a straw – it’s a skill they learn very quickly whether bottle or breast fed. NO ICE! Ice can harbor harmful bacteria which isn’t good for baby when melting. Plus the extreme temperature may not be good for them as it takes quite some time before their bodies can do that.

7. Keeping little ones entertained is a feat. Place the child between you and another person if you can so you can take it in turns to eat.

Take toys, books – if weaning crudités (bread sticks, carrot, sweet peppers, cucumber sticks) are often available for the little ones. Cheddar cheese is another good one to keep them entertained. Talking to them throughout the meal also helps them to understand their surroundings.

8. Sit them away from where plates of hot food will be passing over them and if necessary guide the staff accordingly to avoid doing this and a burn on a baby can be fatal if they go into shock from the burn.

9. Try to relax and enjoy yourself and baby will too 🙂


Breast Feeding: Your Essential Guide

What to expect:

Think about the hardest thing you have ever done – now think breast feeding after child birth is the hardest. You have no control over it. When your milk will come in, how long you will be able to breast feed for (unless you chose to stop), and the agony you can be in is ridiculous!

Resources – websites/facebook page/books/classes/consultants/ breastfeeding groups

Website most useful was Kelly’sMom

Facebook pages: local breastfeeding support groups and NCT FB groups

Books: none lol

Classes: NHS vs NCT Ante natal classes – NHS won hands down.

Establishing Breastfeeding

It took a month with the help of a Lactation Consultant. 

Pumping: the advice is don’t pump for 6 weeks until your supply regulates… hold on but if my milk wont come in and baby won’t latch what do I do? PUMP & FREEZE! Freeze any excess so that you save those amazing antibodies and nutrients for later on!

Other fundamentals: drink plenty of water, eat lots of protein, sleep as much as you can as all these things affect your milk supply

Increase Milk supply: 

Lactation cookies/ oats/ oat milk/ hob nobs/ porridge/flap jacks / fenugreek tea (makes your pee smell like treacle lol)

What you need

A pump: manual or electric – you can rent electric ones however if your baby was premature you may be able to get one from your local PEER group via the HV.

Hot showers and flannels – when your milk comes your boobs are hard as hell! And sore!!! Omg the pain!!! So you’ll need to take warm showers and massage the shit (pardon me please here), as in form a fist and commit self harm kind of massage until your milk and tender boobs hurt no more. If you can’t self harm like this get help seriously… mastitis is worse from what I hear!

Breast pads for impromptu leakages

Maternity bras – god send!

Nipple shields/ nipple shells – the first can help to establish latching (though didn’t in my case) and the other catches any milk that escapes in your bra allowing you to give it later on


It’s natural & helps babies immune system for the first 6 months

Great time for you to bond with baby

It’s a lovely thing to do and helps create an amazing bond x


You don’t know how much baby is having and you depend on how many wet nappies. See our Facebook page for the picture on this!

Blocked ducts

Mastitis – requires antibiotics

Thrush of babies mouth your breast both require treatment!!!

Lipstick nipples mean poor latch! Painful nipples due to this or biting!!!

You feel judged for how and when and how long you chose to breast feed (bf)
We do not judge here so feel free to ask away


Activity Ideas: Toddlers

Looking for some inspiration? Hopefully our list will help inspire you!

  • Set up some paints and get creative! Sponges, forks, potatoes mashers, leaves – get anything and everything to make a beautiful picture. Just have the wet wipes ready, and either a waterproof outfit or an old tshirt 4 the little one and make sure you’re not wearing something you’d hate to get messy!
  • Horror at the potential mess of Paint! Put the paper and a few blobs of paint in a ziplock bag to contain the mess!
  • Go to the library and take out some books and DVDs
  • Go swimming
  • Play doh – or make your own! We’ve shared a post on our FB page on how to make homemade play doh
  • Go to the park n have races, go on the slides, the swings etc. The fresh air really knackers them out!
  • Soft play centres especially on rainy days lets them burn off some energy
  • Ball Pits help them play independently for a bit
  • Bake some cakes or cookie with your little one – then they have some tasty snacks that they helped you to make
  • Sing lots of songs together
  • Make some shakers with plastic containers – think rice and pasta etc
  • Still couldn’t face paint … try crayons!
  • Puzzles & shape sorters – talk about what they can see, colours and shapes too
  • Go shopping – cheap n cheerful and let them pick a new toy
  • Make a sensory box which has different objects for your little one to explore
  • Go to a museum or aquarium, the zoo or even the local pet store
  • Summer time: go have a picnic
  • Visit the beach
  • Have lunch at a cafe/hotel – gets you out of the house!!!
  • Buy an activity book/ magazine and do them with your little one
  • Practice saying the alphabet and numbers
  • Practice writing letters and words
  • Visit a friend or older relative for an hour with a small gift either made or picked by your little one. Stay an hour tops if it’s an older relative
  • Skype distant relatives
  • Using pillows, cushions and blankets build a fort
  • Set up that car track n enjoy a few mins of fun watching them drive cars around
  • Play with all their cars by driving them everywhere: furniture the floor on the wall
  • Engage in imaginative play with soft toys  – you can do sounds or tell a story or just play with your little one taking the lead
  • Go to a farm or play with that farm set you got
  • Play a musical instrument
  • Listen to a story cd or tell a story
  • Read a couple of books and nursery rhymes
  • If your little one isn’t talking yet, try teaching him/her sign language
  • Colouring in books!
  • Watch a movie
  • Take some pictures or Better still let them take the pics
  • Let them help you with the housework – my lo loves doing laundry i.e. Chucking clothes on the floor whether they’re clean or dirty. We use this opportunity to name each item or talk about colours or the pattern/picture of the clothes
  • Bang on the pots and pans
  • Practice making funny faces and noises at each other
  • Research new places to go and plan day trips

Pregnancy and Weight Management 

During the duration of your pregnancy you will hear about how important it is you have a wonderful and healthy pregnancy. Included in this rhetoric is how much you are expected to gain weight wise.

A good weight gain depends on how much you weighed at the beginning of your pregnancy. There’s usually 3 categories for the weight gain: underweight/average and overweight.

A good app to track your weight gain is:

Pregnancy +

This app helps you to track lots of aspects of your pregnancy including your weight. But it doesn’t tell you if you’ve gained too much or too little.

See our Pregnancy App Reviews for further information.

And a good website which breaks down your weight gain allowance per week is:

Pregnancy Calculator

Weight gain in pregnancy is different for everyone. Some lose at the beginning and barely put on the whole time and then there are others who put nothing on til the end and all of a sudden out comes a bump out of nowhere.

Follow the advice of your medical team and keep a healthy diet (with a few treats).

Below is a table from the Baby Centre website to help as a guide:

And remember most weight gain is after 20 weeks.


It’s Positive!

Whoo hooo! Congratulations you have just found out you’re preggers!

What next?!

  • Make a note of when your last period was – you’ll need this information repeatedly
  • Think back to when you might have conceived – make a note
  • Do you know your blood type and that of the father – might seem strange but all will be revealed
  • Think about both of your families medical histories and make a note

Now if you didn’t already do a clear blue digital pregnancy test which tells you roughly how many weeks you are – I would do if I were you! It’s exciting to know how far along you are pus your doctor will need to know too.

Otherwise don’t panic: we will explain here:

Your pregnancy will be calculated in weeks from the first day of your last period. 

So if your last period was on Jan 1st but today’s date is 17th Feb, you will be 5 weeks pregnant. A calendar really helps with this. And throughout the pregnancy you will be referred to as 5+2 or 23+6 which means 5 weeks & 2 days pregnant or 23 weeks and 6 days pregnant
Now here’s the trickier part – what about ovulation and implantation – what if you didn’t have sex way back then but only a few weeks ago? This is how pregnancy is calculated albeit your embryo in reality might be only 2 -3 weeks old.

Once you have either done a digital test or calculated how far along you are, it’s time to tell the Doctors. 

Get an appointment to discuss any issues on your mind, family medical history, blood pressure, get checked for sti’s, talk about your weight, thyroid issues if u have any as well as your blood type.

Blood type is important in pregnancy IF you are a negative rhesus ; i.e. O negative the rhesus is the positive or negative status. The reason it’s important is because if you have a negative rhesus and your baby has a different blood type, you can end up building anti- their blood cell type which can affect you in future pregnancies.

So it’s very important to know what your blood type is and to let your medical team know what your blood type is.

You’ll also need to be aware that duringnyour pregnancy any vaginal bleeding will mean you will require an anti-d injection to counteract any potential issues.

Now if you haven’t been already- start taking folic acid supplements – it may already be part of the prenatal supplements you have. HOWEVER if you have a BMI over 30 you will need a higher dose of folic acid and this is important for the first 12 weeks. I’d also throw in omega3 supplements too you can get those with ginger which may help with morning sickness.

Thyroid issues – if you have hypo or hyper theyroidism during your first 12 weeks the baby depends 100% on your thyroid working. So you need to get your levels checked and medication adjusted if required.

Now you have seen the doctor you need to get booked in with your local community midwife (mw). You should be seen around 8weeks – they won’t see you before this (which is bizarre considering folic acid requirements noted above) but don’t panic if it’s not til a bit later.

At your first appointment (it’s called a booking in appointment) the mw will glean as much information about you and your partner as she can including medical history. So it’s easiest to be prepared with your notes from above. They’ll ask you whether you smoke,drink, drugs, diseases, medical conditions you and your family have had, immunisations etc. It definitely takes some time.

This is also a good time for you to ask any questions that’s on your mind too. So be prepared.

She will give you a pregnancy book where a record of how your pregnancy is developing will be recorded. You take this to all appointments. She will also give you other booklets and information on pregnancy, breast feeding, diet etc. 

She will tell you the date of your next appointments and when you can expect to have scans of your baby. 

Remember if you don’t wish to have a student present for any of your appointments you have the right to ask them to leave.